Sometimes, it's hormones that influence behavior, but most behavior comes from whatever children are exposed to, and if the parents expose the children to bad influences, it's their fault.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

But they can also be exposed to friends or other family members, parents are not around their children 24/7, when your kids go to school they will spend hours 5 days a week surrounded by other kids that may come from dysfunctional homes, you can only set your kids on the right path and hope they can overcome the obstacles in their way.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I wouldn't blame a parent for the kids behavior I would blame them for not correcting it especially when out in public "kids will be kids " equals "hey I don't want to deal with what's next so let's all just be miserable "

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Having raised two kids (now 23 and 25) who have ended up quite different from one another (neither bad, just quite different) I can tell you that at some point their outside influences will shape them more than you as a parent will. All you can do is try to raise them with certain values and standards and hope that they choose good friends and good paths. But at some point they choose their own way.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

It's how you raise them up to that point that will determine what directions they choose with those outside influences. If you teach them how to work hard for what they want, to be respectful of authority, and don't neglect their needs financially as well as emotionally they will turn out a lot better than if you just coddle them or neglect them entirely.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Yes, but that's rather shallow. Anecdotal, I know, but I have close friends who raised three kids. Two are "good" people, and one ended up involved with various illegal activities. The three kids all grew up in the same household with the same parents and are fairly close together in age. The point is, there are no absolutes and you can do all the right things as a parent and a kids can still choose a bad path.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Not always the case, but good parents tend to raise good kids. Bad or absent patents tend to cause kids that are trouble. There is alot to be said about being raised in a family that enforces rules upon the children.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Yeah, it's interesting that a lot of people for whatever reason seem to forget that concept of "youthful rebellion".... where they know the thing they are about to do is wrong, but they're going to do it anyway, regardless of what the parents and any other authority figure says. It's possible the parents could be perfectly fine in how they did the job of parenting... but the kid is just one of those that is destined to be an inherently bad/evil person.

by Anonymous 2 years ago