Allowing your partner unrestricted access to your phone is hugely inappropriate and a breach of your contacts' privacy. amirite?

POV: You are a walking red flag and desperately want to justify your actions

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Ugh. So exactly what are you hiding over there?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Got caught didn't you?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

can you imagine the mistrust with that conversation? "Can i look at your phone?" "No! You're breaching my privacy" .... breaks up 💀💀💀

by wildermancamden 1 week ago

Interestingly enough - the Supreme Judicial court of Massachusetts disagrees with you as far as text message. There is no reasonable expectation of privacy in regards to text messages. Link

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's an interesting point but one could also argue a difference between moral and legal standards. Not to mention privacy from government search verse privacy between friends and partners.

by FriendshipAfter4934 1 week ago

Bro, what do you mean slavery is wrong? The government said its fine, so it's fine silly.

by Powerful-Month8819 1 week ago

Take a look at their justification and see if you agree or disagree with them.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

This reminds me of the girl off some podcast who wouldn't bat an eye if states still allowed slavery because "that's what they want to do".

by nienowmarcus 1 week ago

Or… just don't get into a relationship if you're incredibly insecure

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Because all the info on your phone is private anyways? L O L get real. Installing any Meta app on your phone is hugely inappropriate and a breach of your contacts' privacy.

by Nice-Flamingo 1 week ago

I have never cheated, and I wouldn't. My phone is mine, not anyone else's, and I am not allowing access to it. My friends have a right to expect I am keeping their messages confidential.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Not really that odd. My best friend let her suspicious boyfriend go through her phone (shock horror, he was projecting) when he accused her being secretive and keeping things from him. She let some guy I'd never met go through all my WhatsApps to her and read deeply private stuff about my health, work, parents, relationship issues. I did NOT give permission for him to see any of it.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No - he hunted back through months worth of messages we'd exchanged looking for even a shred of evidence that she'd cheated, eg. "I'm seeing X tonight, Y doesn't know". I only found out after she complained to me that she was having to explain who some mutual guy friend we'd been talking about was.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yeah, sorry but no. I have several one-on-one chats, as well as one big group chat with the people in my support group. What we talk about in there is not my partner's business, and if one of the people I talk to told me their partner had access to those chats, yes, I'd be pissed. And it isn't just that either. My siblings and I talk about things regarding our family that, once again, is only our business. Nobody except us has any need to know anything about that. Dating somebody does not mean giving up every little bit of privacy. And saying that you have to or you're automatically a cheater would be reason enough to instantly break up.

by Flashy_Lemon 1 week ago

Totally agree!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

contact I accidentally read that as contract

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Legally, you're not breaching anything. Maybe your friends won't like you anymore or something if they find out your husband reads your texts but there's not much that can be done.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Agree completely. People have a right to expect their messages are for the eyes of the recipient. Not the recipient and their partner.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

OP cheated and needs a response to justify not letting their partner look through their phone

by Early-Car-7317 1 week ago

98% of phone numbers are public and available online. "Unrestricted access" to my phone, you mean Gary that I work with? Or our realtor? Or my friends that were at the wedding? Define privacy because there are holes riddled with your opinion. It's unpopular because it doesn't make sense.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Bro I'm just attached to my technology. It's my emotional support phone.

by Rettaschuppe 1 week ago

Sorry bud. I have an emotional spicy pillow. We are not the same

by Both-Contribution 1 week ago

Nice try, we all know you're just covering up your cheating.

by Powerful-Month8819 1 week ago

Conversely, if you think your partner is cheating, judt grab their phone and run into the bathroom. If they break down the door, that says it all. You dont need to spy. 😁😁😁

by ConsciousDelay9407 1 week ago

I have never felt the need to go through my ladys phone. Not once. You either trust the person. You are with, or you dont

by Anonymous 1 week ago

💯

by Sufficient_Yogurt 1 week ago

i did. do the contacts in your phone not send you messages and pictures?

by Scary_Diver 1 week ago

This is correct. Even letting your partner see a text from someone else is possibly a violation of their HIPPA rights.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's nonsense.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Partners should offer to share, but that offer should never be accepted.

by Lefflerfelton 1 week ago

Two becomes one 🤷‍♂️

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Nope. At no point have I said to any friend/colleague/acquaintance that I'm good with their partners (often someone I've never met) reading my emails/WhatsApps etc.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Emails might be extreme but when I'm telling something to my best friend I expect he would share it with his wife

by Anonymous 1 week ago

What do you mean by unrestricted access? Are you suggesting that my partner shouldn't even know my passcode?

by Mariliebernhard 1 week ago

As in, giving them your phone and saying "look at whatever you like".

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I guess this means I have to change my phone password since my partner and I use the same one

by ReplacementDapper 1 week ago

I trust my partner infinitely more than any T&C's, EULA or app privacy settings…

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No.

by Fritzbauch 1 week ago

If you and your partner agree to this when you get together, it's not inappropriate. Plus, phone numbers are fairly public knowledge anyway. So I don't see it as a breach of privacy. This opinion is just dumb. It screams "my partner doesn't trust me and wants to look at my phone and I need internet people to agree with me so I feel good not showing them."

by lehnergabrielle 1 week ago

I don't think it is the phone numbers they are talking about. It is the texts/emails from their friends who didn't sign up for someone else to be reading through what they sent

by Anonymous 1 week ago