I especially hate when it's the 22 year old SAHMs who already have 3 kids trying to shame me for not being married, having no kids and wanting to get a PhD at 27. Because how dare I find purpose in anything other than motherhood and being a wife…

by Anonymous 8 hours ago

No, but the expectation is you go somewhere. Again, don't have to have figured everything out but figure out a direction, next steps etc. I only just figured out an endgame in the last few years, or at least long term goals and I'm in my 30s. But I wouldn't be here had I not picked a discussion in my mid 20s.

by Anonymous 8 hours ago

Does anybody really shame people for this? Most people I know changed majors one or more times, maybe worked some out of undergrad, then changed jobs a couple years in, or decided to go back to school, or whatever. The percentage that were 100% on a planned track right out of high school - and didn't deviate - is really small. I don't think people just each others chops on this. I'm Gen X and we didn't really do it then, and Z seems more fluid than we were.

by Anonymous 8 hours ago

Iv had guys tell me you should be in your career by 25, sorry that's a pipe dream for most folks. Most people just have a job not a career.

by Anonymous 8 hours ago

Hell, I'm 60 and still haven't figured it out.

by Anonymous 7 hours ago

I'm 28 and my life is more of a mess now than when I was 25. Lol.

by Bernita30 7 hours ago

I don't think anyone actually expects people that age to have life figured out, more so that they are putting in real effort into some pursuit. I think we've all seen the person who's dropped out of 3 college programs because they have zero discipline, and just continue to work part time while living at home, and probably spend a ton of time gaming and partying.

by Specific-Luck 7 hours ago

I had major depression for my entire early 20s so there wasn't a chance of that happening for me lol. I think the whole "everyone is the main character and has to chase success at all costs" is a terrible mantra. I think everyone should live their life how they see fit. I'm happy in my boring mediocrity, I've never wanted more, more, more.

by Mya71 6 hours ago

Braelon Allen is 20 and in the NFL. Sky Brown is 16 and just really liked skateboarding so she became a professional.

by elinoreschulist 6 hours ago