+36 You can't marry someone with adult children that live at home and ask for changes in the way things are done without a "get to know you" period AND a sincere negotiation with those adults WELL before the wedding date. amirite?

by BackgroundNo 1 day ago

This is a very specific opinion, OP. Best of luck to you.

by Sea-Organization-452 1 day ago

I tried to be less specific but being broader takes more words and I kept going over the word limit.

by BackgroundNo 1 day ago

being broader takes more words There's a sexist joke in there somewhere 😂😂

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Setting boundaries with family is hard but necessary work. You'll do fine. Hang in there.

by Sea-Organization-452 1 day ago

This seems very specific

by Anonymous 1 day ago

This only counts as unpopular because nobody has such a specific oppinion.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You sure can. People do it all the time.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Reverse point. You can't marry someone and bring them into your house, where you live with your child, without making sure that they are ok with the way you live. Especially if you're planning to get married. This is wild, I understand the single person not having a sense of responsibility. But as a parent you must care!

by Zena33 1 day ago

Your question is the more popular situation, but I agree with you. It seems people don't like talking as much as they should. If someone has a problem with you giving your kids soda at every meal, but don't say anything until all of their stuff is in the bureau, is it soda parent that is crazy or the person who moves all their stuff in then throws a tantrum or gets passive-aggressive about soda parent?

by BackgroundNo 1 day ago

It doesn't have to be one or the other in the complete wrong. My larger point is that if you try to impose your will in a situation simply because you are "more right" you don't always have the right of way. Adults talk. I think we're saying the same thing.

by BackgroundNo 1 day ago