Wedding presents are about MY financial situation and not anyone else's, amirite?

I get your point, for sure. Nobody is forcing you to spend x amount though. My wife & I got married last year and actually a couple of our favourite gifts were homemade things that probably didn't cost much, but we absolutely cherish

by vonemil 1 day ago

This is the way it should be. I will say as a wedding guest, the less 'zilla the couple are, the more generous I feel like being

by Guilty_Creme 1 day ago

Right. I don't even remember how much anyone gave me outside of a couple family members that gave very large gifts. I remember who showed up and who celebrated with us. That's what matters most.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Meaningful gifts will always be better than soulless expensive gifts.

by Chemical-Poet-5134 1 day ago

I'm curious what prompted this. Did someone call you out on a wedding gift? What little games are you talking about. If all you can afford is X, then TFB for the bride and groom and anyone else that is judging.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Sounds like your friend lives in her own world and doesn't understand that not everyone can afford what she can.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

lol, the last time someone tried to dictate the value of gift people should bring in my circle of friends, nobody went to the wedding.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

For the people who says this thing doesn't happen, it happens, a lot. Nowdays is pretty frecuent to find weddings with a list of "desirable gifts" and some of them are so expensive, i was in a wedding with a webpage with a long list with gifts and you buy it like a pruchase item.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You mean a gift registry, like there have been for generations?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Just don't buy a gift then. Easier to just stick a hundred dollar bill in your card. Most people don't give more than that unless you're very close.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Worse is when the gift registry is all expensive things and the wedding is on a non-holiday Friday afternoon. "Buy us expensive things and use a vacation day or unpaid day too!"

by Ok-Bike 1 day ago

Has this actually happened to you? I don't know a single person who has been expected to give a gift of X amount that someone else set. Registries are built with items of various price points for this exact reason.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I know people that always give a certain item. Doesn't matter what you have on your list, this is what you are getting.

by kunzeollie 1 day ago

I think that this is only an unpopular opinion in some circles. I've heard of people getting upset if people don't give a gift large enough to "cover their plate" or whatever but I don't think I know anyone who thinks that way.

by Remarkable-Top 1 day ago

I'm so glad I have wonderful friends. The four couples who got married in the last eight years, not one asked for gifts. I'm an early 90s baby. I already have everything I need. I can't envision myself asking for gifts or making a registry.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

People may just be asking because they are unsure what to spend or give. Some times people ask those questions because they need help. It doesnt matter whay you spend amd you should never spend more money than you can afford just to impress people

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Agree, but quite popular an opinion.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I've gone to many weddings and not brought a gift - it's never been an issue. If they aren't a super close couple, they likely won't even realize you didn't bring a gift. If they (are) a super close couple, I do buy gifts, but I buy within my means. If the couple doesn't like my present, that's a them problem. This might be an (am I the asshole) moment but; I've had my children's birthday parties on their actual birth dates several times and have not given them a gift during the party. They fly through a flurry of gifts and honestly have zero clue where they came from. I purchased one of my kids a $200 game system one year, and shortly after the party the child was sooooo excited that their cousin bought them that console... wait... it wasn't your cousin, it was ME. That's when I realized they have zero clue who bought what. The party is my present now. My wife and I have been married for 25 years and we only bought each other gifts the first year. Forced gifts (can often be) cheap meaningless gifts, and we're adults, so if there's something we want - we buy it ourselves. She actually got "mad" at me one year when I bought her something (close to) our anniversary because we agreed we don't do that. BUT, what we do is we purchase things for each other throughout the year when we see something we think the other will like. YOU do what YOU can afford - even if that's nothing.

by Shanahangarret 1 day ago

I don't understand the premise of this opinion, but you sound like an ass.

by Fit_Equivalent9351 1 day ago

Na, I get it. I gave a $200 (pre-pandemic) gift to someone I really didn't know that well, but was invited due to their mother. About a week later I received a call from their mom asking me and my wife if they missed part of my gift. The nerve...

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I had no idea people did that. Wow.

by Fit_Equivalent9351 1 day ago

Welcome to crazy ass people and weddings. People turn into psychos. I had to kick my future-MIL out of the rehearsal because she kept correcting the officiant and trying to change everything. Her role also got reduced to "you walk down the isle, then sit. that's it".

by Anonymous 1 day ago

How do you come up with that?

by Desperate-Baby-3879 1 day ago

This seems like a popular opinion, whatever it is. Passive aggressively blasting what seems like a very personal issue here is weird. If you don't like your friends asking you something like that, don't hang out with them.

by Fit_Equivalent9351 1 day ago

If you don't understand the situation the OP is complaining about, how can you reasonably determine that the person sounds like an ass? Honest question.

by Remarkable-Top 1 day ago

Sounds like OP is complaining about a very personal problem in a public forum.

by Fit_Equivalent9351 1 day ago

I'm getting married soon, and the idea of asking for money and gifts from my guests is so weird Like putting a list of things to buy us on our wedding website feels kind of pathetic to me, and I feel like I'm judging myself for the things I would want

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I felt the same way. We ended up not making a registry and instead put a note on the invite website that said "gifts are not required, your attendance matters more to us. If you feel you must give something a small contribution to our honeymoon is welcome" Worked out well. Begging for gifts on a registry felt really pathetic.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

That's not the point of a registry and it is sad that so many people don't understand the point of it.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Yea we're leaning towards the contribute to our honeymoon concept as well I get the concept of the registry, it's convenient and helpful for people who want to buy gifts. But we just don't like asking for gifts. And I think that's ok

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Wanna be an ass? Go to your local farmer's market and buy 12 chicks for like $60 bucks. I hope they enjoy their present. 🤗

by Anonymous 1 day ago