Breaking up over text/ phone is fine, amirite?

There's something to be said for being classy and mature. A coffee shop, and "I don't think this is working out" is more courteous.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

i personally think it should be done privately if youre gonna be in person, no one deserves to be put in that (possibly emotional) situation surrounded by strangers

by Anonymous 1 day ago

But why? Now I have to waste 1-2 hours to get ready put on a nice outfit, do make up, shave, waste my expensive perfume to get dumped. It's more time efficient to get a text.

by ashlee89 1 day ago

You spend months being in a committed relationship with the person, you can spend 1 hour doing the courthouse thing of breaking up in person if that's to much work for you then I know that I don't want to be with you

by Anonymous 1 day ago

But why. It seems like a waste of time to get broken up with in person.

by ashlee89 1 day ago

Cause I want to see the person I might still hold feelings for one last time, to see them, say goodbye, wish them well and be able to close that chapter. Doing it over text message doesn't give the same kind of closure

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Not everyone is an emotionless android like you, that's why

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Tbh if somebody is fine breaking up over text they probably did the relationship from a very distanced perspective too. What a shame.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Do you really take two hours getting dressed up for a cup of coffee? I'm a woman, and didn't take that long even during high school.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

That is a lot of fixing up to go to a coffee shop. Dressing down is fine for a coffeeshop and breaking up.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

If you really loved and cared bout that person, you'd want them to do it in person. Sounds like you haven't found anything like that yet.

by Due_Actuator 1 day ago

Cowards way to do it

by SorryCap 1 day ago

I feel like it depends on how long you've been seeing someone. A 5 year relationship? 10 years and you've been living together? Surely you can understand the importance of closure and talking things through amicably. Not every relationship that ends is because people hate each other and don't want to see each other anymore.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It's extremely childish my ex broke up with me through text not even a phone call is just crazy to me. Like have some self respect and put your big boy pants on

by Anonymous 1 day ago

But how? Why would you want to get all dress up just to get broken up with?

by ashlee89 1 day ago

No one says you need to put on a suit or dress 😭😭 but a sit down conversation is the adult thing to do. Like breaking up isn't a phone conversation it's a face to face conversation. If you had the balls to ask them out in person you better have the balls to break up in person.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Why are you assuming dressing up? And it's not like meet me here for a break up.

by Disastrous_Remote 1 day ago

Cowardly.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Don't put text/phone like they're equivalent methods, doing it over text is extremely disrespectful and much less fine than doing it on a phone call, which I do think is fine.

by Ok-Operation 1 day ago

I've done it before, only because I was a teenager and in an abusive relationship. I didn't want to break up with him to his face. As an adult, I probably wouldn't do it over text/phone. I'd prefer to do it in person.

by lamontrosenbaum 1 day ago

Depends on how long you've had that relationship. Think it's pretty cowardly. Imagine getting fired from your job via a text message, doesn't sound appropriate, does it?

by Puzzleheaded-Gas 1 day ago

Maybe you're tougher than most people but it's only courtesy to have a face-to-face conversation. Just my opinion.

by Puzzleheaded-Gas 1 day ago

I'd rather not get broken up with in public. If you wanna do it in person it's fine, but in a public place? Nah. I'll take the call/text 100%.

by ortizaurelio 1 day ago

Nah, just no.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Leave the stuff outside? And stand away from it watching for a pickup to happen? Otherwise you are going to have to cross paths. Be a grownup. Have the convo. Pickup your stuff. Unless they are a danger there is no reason to not act like an adult.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Coward

by Grayce79 23 hours ago

I actually did get broken up with some month back, had been dating for 4-5 months but never became gf/bf or anything. I had feelings for her, she didn't have them for me. She chose to come over after a break we had for a couple of weeks to think about the situation and it gave me hope that we could work things out, but instead she broke up with me. I told her right there and then that I would have preferred it if she had just sent a text or something because if there was nothing I could do anyway it would have been easier to have my heart broken at the comfort of being home alone instead of having to sit there and pretend to be OK with everything.

by Anonymous 23 hours ago

It depends but I agree with the sentiment. If I still care a great deal for the person and we just aren't meant to be I will make the effort to break up in person. If i'm just done it's gonna be via phone call idc.

by Anonymous 23 hours ago

I think a phone call is good

by gstamm 23 hours ago

Might as well, since that's how it started.

by Ok-Nefariousness939 23 hours ago

My response: K

by mooredomenico 22 hours ago