+40 Mercy Meals after funerals are awful, amirite?

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I've never heard this term before. Meal aside I think being with others at a funeral is a way some to share commonality and bond with those left behind. If it's not for you, which is completely fine, then ya, go home and do whatever gives you comfort.

by Zora60 3 months ago

Also a way to make sure that those who had to travel for the funeral were fed in days before drive-thru. Not to mention people who don't feel like cooking after an emotional day. Completely optional.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Some people crave being around other people when a loved one has passed. If the person was old, suffered from an extended illness, or the death was otherwise more or less expected and we're not trying to process shock, being around other people who share our grief is very comforting to many of us.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

A wake?

by bradfordlynch 3 months ago

Mhm.

by imelda57 3 months ago

You mean repass. Wake occurs the night before the funeral

by bergenaomi 3 months ago

"Celebration of life" 🙄

by bradfordlynch 3 months ago

what are you being sassy about that? lol

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I've only ever known as the gathering after the service as a wake (UK).

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Wait, is this what weird teetotallers do instead of a wake? We get pissed after a funeral here

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Funerals and weddings are the only time I get to see some family so it's nice to talk to them after the service.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Christ, that is a truly bad take, well done. Over here in Ireland we get absolutely hammered at the wake, its meant to be a celebration of life. Death is a part of life and during these wakes you're supposed to reminisce about the deceased and share stories, it helps people move on.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

try greek orthodox.

by brannon62 3 months ago

I've lived in the south all my life and never heard the term before. In my area I've heard the term "repast", but only from African Americans.

by BlackberryMain9005 3 months ago

Op sees it as a mercy meal. Others see it as celebrating the life that passed on.

by Ava16 3 months ago

Who calls them Mercy Meals? Ew that is a terrible name. I have always heard them called a Wake. They are generally held after the viewing or service for the deceased. Friends and Family gather together, bring a dish to pass and comfort the immediate family. These are done as a celebration of the person who has passed, very similar to a party or family reunion that is extended to friends as well. It's meant to be a joyous occasion with good food and drinks. Yeah, some tears are shed but their are also a lot of laughs and love. Any time I have gone to one, many people bring two dishes. One to pass for the wake, and a small portion for the immediate family. So that they dont have to worry about cooking and stuff while they are at home grieving. I think for most people the last thing they want when they pass away, is for those they care for the most to be wallowing alone in a room and alone when they are hurting. Death is one thing ever single human being will experience. Whether it is the death of a loved one or our own. Instead of just hurting and mourning a loss alone. Celebrate the life of those that have passed with those who love and care for you. It can be a lot easier to move on when you dont have to mourn alone. But everyone grieves differently, and that is okay too.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I find it comforting

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Here that's called a Wake, and is often accompanied by getting a few drinks in and remembering the dearly departed. It can get emotional

by GeologistUseful4911 3 months ago

It is a way to see people and remember the person who died.

by ForceSuccessful5806 3 months ago

Because it's the only place I can get funeral potatoes. (Funeral potatoes are a Utah thing, an insanely rich potato casserole.)

by Gframi 3 months ago

No one (at least no one sensible) is going to blame you for going to the funeral but not feeling up to hanging around afterwards.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Depends on who died. Close family member? I can't eat when grieving. Some random aunt who I've never heard of but family insisted that we go? Sure. So I sort of understand stand OP here

by sadyewaelchi 3 months ago

Funerals in my family tend to be kinda "fun". Yes, everyone is sad, and there's a somber atmosphere at dinner, but there are also extended family and old friends you haven't seen in forever. Cousins that you reminisce with, and drinks to be shared. I feel like it helps the transition a bit.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Is that baloney sandwich on white bread and butter in the church basement food?

by Internal-Code-8956 3 months ago

I think it depends on the type of person you are. Everyone deals with grief differently. When my mother passed away, we had a very small service and I just wanted to go home. So I did. My mother didn't have many friends and had burned a lot of bridges in her life. She had been dying for a 18 months. So we all just needed rest afterwards. When my aunt died, HUNDREDS of people came to celebrate her life and legacy. She was an amazing woman through and through and practically raised me. I was floored by how many people stood and spoke when it came time, sharing stories and bringing the entire room comfort. We all cried, we laughed, we cried some more.. laughed some more. Then about 30-40 of us (close family) went back to her son's house and let the kids play while we all ate and just decompressed. It just goes to show you there are a handful of factors involved. I hope you are able to find peace from grieving, either now or in the future

by Bulky_Preference6925 3 months ago

Why? Because the food soaks up the alcohol. In the UK the funeral service is usually followed by a gathering in a function hall or pub to indulge in sandwiches, quiche, sausage rolls and alcohol.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

When else are you going to eat Funeral Potatoes? In all seriousness though, many communal rituals involve partaking in a meal together as a show of solidarity after a potentially divisive or isolating event. Look at it from a sociological perspective.

by Glad_Wrongdoer_6554 3 months ago

Well you could just do that then couldn't you? everyone grieves differently.

by cleorahowe 3 months ago

The only one I've been to was for my elderly grandmother - it was her wish that her family get together at a particular place to have a meal and enjoy seeing each other. It was very nice because we lived out of state and it gave us an opportunity to talk to people we hadn't seen in years.

by melyna76 3 months ago

That meals are good if drinking is limited

by Anonymous 3 months ago

It's an Italian thing. You wouldn't understand

by cecil77 3 months ago