Breaking up through a text does not make you a coward! amirite?

Hard disagree. This is someone you've been in an intimate relationship with. They deserve the respect of you looking them in the eye and saying how you feel. It's not about efficiency. It's about that respect.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Someone can still disrespect you by breaking up with you in person. The delivery doesn't really matter in that way. Context matters. Details matter.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Agreed! Only exception is an abusive relationship, but that's a whole other can of worms.

by Motor-Purchase 4 months ago

But you're still respecting them by breaking up with them in the first place and respecting them enough to tell them where they stand, whether that's behind a screen or to their face. Not everything has to be done face to face to be brave or the right thing.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

This IS one of those things that has to be

by bartonjudah 4 months ago

Doing the absolute bare minimum to not feel like you are being a bad person is not respecting someone.

by Cool_Task_9987 4 months ago

It does make you a coward but you are untitled to your wrong opinion

by Obie33 4 months ago

So glad i never ran across this The biggest heartbreak…she stood 10 toes and told me to my face Had to respect her decision

by Anonymous 4 months ago

What matters is who receives the text. When you communicate, focus on the other person, not you. If she feels you are a coward doing that by text, you are. (But I agree for the first point, dangerous etc.)

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Again, as long as you tell them what's on your mind and exactly why you broke up with them, you're respecting them enough to give then an explanation in the nicest away you can.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

This is so case specific

by Anonymous 4 months ago

What is cowardly is not breaking up when you feel the need to. Breaking up over text is sometimes necessary. Now if it's a wife, or a partner of years, then an in person meeting is necessary. But I also add the caveat, a 'clean' breakup cannot happen over text. Stating your desire/declaring to breakup over text is fine. But if they want to talk it over in person after, you should grant them that.

by Pristine_Wind 4 months ago

fully agree for when a dangerous situation can be avoided by sending a text but a safe, emotionally stable partner you've been with for 1+ years should have an in person conversation with you, even if its not the initial "I want to break up". especially if you've been living together, i can't imagine living with someone for years and only getting a text.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

"I don't want to give my intimate partner the respect of breaking up face-to-face because I have anxiety" is literally cowardice, yes. Avoiding an uncomfortable or stressful situation because you don't want to face it is, definitionally, being a coward.

by Cool_Task_9987 4 months ago

Would you break up with someone via a paper letter? A system where you can't be sure they'll get it and they have no opportunity to respond in real time? How far do you have to go to consider it cowardly? You don't want to see the hurt on their face. You don't want them to yell at you. You you you. You're hurting someone and it's all about you. I do it face to face so I can look in the mirror and know I'm not a coward.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

This is an unpopular opinion?! If so, then I agree with OP. Break up and move on. It don't matter how and it doesn't even matter why. Just be clear and move the f on.

by Strong-Sector-6747 4 months ago