Having celebraty crush or crush on someone else while in a relationship is not normal, amirite?

It's very normal if we're just talking about the general population. If you have a problem with it that's also valid though, just be upfront about it in relationships. Things are only bad or good in relationships relative to the people in them.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Considering how many people have celebrity crushes and healthy relationships, I don't think you can claim it's leading to disaster It's not like a celebrity crush she's gonna make you love your partner less

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Cheating is also pretty common but it isn't normal.

by ConfusionImaginary 1 day ago

Tons of people have a very innocent "haha" celebrity crush and don't cheat

by Glum-Fix3259 23 hours ago

What's the point though? What's haha about " I have a crush on someone else?"

by ConfusionImaginary 23 hours ago

The "haha" part is that it's not that serious. It's not something anyone is actually trying to pursue. It's innocent, like I've said before. Again, where's the middle ground between an innocent crush and an obsession? That's what I don't understand. If thinking someone is cute or hot isn't a crush, then what is?

by Glum-Fix3259 23 hours ago

This is insane. If that's all it takes to be considered a crush, then people would be having ton of crushes. Every actor is almost good looking, that doesn't mean your gf is crushing on everyone. She probably only gets excited for one or two actors, and that's the crush. Much more than thinking they are good looking

by ConfusionImaginary 22 hours ago

Getting excited to see them on a movie. Every actor is good looking but that doesn't mean your gf would call everyone cute or something

by ConfusionImaginary 22 hours ago

Being excited to see someone in a movie is inappropriate? Oh boy.

by kellieledner 22 hours ago

Getting excited to see an actor in a movie is inappropriate? That's beyond absurd. Couldn't disagree more Re-read your statement back again. What a terrible take

by Glum-Fix3259 22 hours ago

Celebrity crushes simply just mean you find a particular celebrity cute and/or you take a particular liking of them (this can be for various reasons, maybe if they're an artist you really like their music or singing/playing style, or if they're an actor you fan over their performances). Getting excited over celebrities like that is far different than actually being in love with someone you know, or having a personal crush. We do not know these people. If your partner is romantically obsessing over a celebrity then it becomes a legitimate issue, and the parasocial aspect is a serious concern. But beside that it is no different than how someone might feel about a piece of media or a fictional character they really like. Your partner could have various celebrity crushes or fanboy/girl/whatever moments for a singer or an actor and still choose you at the end of the day even if they were magically presented with the option of being with their celebrity crush. And to add on, for sure most celebrities are conventionally attractive- that does not mean every single person will find said celebrity hot or cute. I can recognize many celebrities are attractive in a conventional sense, but there's only a number I'm actually ‘attracted' to. Various people experience the same occurrences.

by Anonymous 22 hours ago

Your username and this convo are a pretty damn hilarious combo.

by Anonymous 22 hours ago

I think you completely missed the second half of the process. Obviously every relationship has the right to set their own boundaries, but most people don't mind if their partner has a celebrity crush. Many people find it fun to talk about each other celebrity crushes. Most people don't like cheating. See the difference. Sounds like you might just be feeling a bit insecure

by Anonymous 21 hours ago

So the general idea here is that what most people agree to. The instant someone does against the majority is considered insecurity. But then if someone did talk to their partner about not being comfortable with the celebrity crush , would their partner calling them insecure be a good Partnership?

by ConfusionImaginary 21 hours ago

Did you read what I said. It is 100% ok for one of your boundaries to be not ok with a celebrity crush. Obviously if you differ on this you aren't compatible and yeah it's a deal breaker. Find someone who's opinions on this align with your own

by Anonymous 21 hours ago

Y'all make relationships seem like jail

by Anonymous 21 hours ago

If not crushing on others is a jail to you, I'm sad about your partner

by ConfusionImaginary 20 hours ago

What is a crush doing to you as a partner

by Anonymous 20 hours ago

Man stfu

by Anonymous 20 hours ago

You stfu too buddy

by ConfusionImaginary 19 hours ago

I don't see it mentioned, but crushes generally aren't exactly easily controlled, there is a huge range to this - Do they perk up when they see them on TV? Do they actively look up media of them? Do they jerk off to images or videos? Do they think of them when having sex? There are some significant different stages there. Same as in RL, do they enjoy when someone comes in the office? Do they flirt a little when they see them, or think about it? Do they message them and get into personal conversations? Do they manipulate circumstances to meet with them? Do they actually plan to take it further given the opportunity? A crush is what? Feeling attracted to someone - visually, emotionally, physically? The reason you sound young is because it's not black/white. Sometimes a person appeals and it's up to us to control what we do about it. A crush, is pretty generally a very basic physical attraction and is a natural feeling. What is more important is what we do with it, what we allow it to do to us and what we do that affects other people.

by eankunding 19 hours ago

A crush is much more than that. It's not just thinking this person is a good looking perfect. I can think of that about my same gender too but it's not a crush. To get to the level of a crush, your mind does wander a bit.

by ConfusionImaginary 19 hours ago

I'm so glad my partner and I can find other people hot without getting weird like this lmao. Celebrated our 10years last week and this sort of thing has never been an issue.

by Anonymous 19 hours ago

"I think you are sexy" to a partner > "I think that celebrity is sexy" to your partner.

by ConfusionImaginary 18 hours ago

You are looking way to deep into it.

by Anonymous 18 hours ago

You gotta be under 18

by Tommie75 17 hours ago

Thanks for proving my first point. Being older is also no excuse to have crushes on others. It's literally school kids behaviour

by ConfusionImaginary 17 hours ago

I'm mature enough to know that what you're saying is you being insecure but aight.

by Tommie75 17 hours ago

Are you sure you are mature because having a celebrity crush seems immature

by ConfusionImaginary 17 hours ago

So everything you don't agree with immature? Yeah your definitly a kid

by Tommie75 17 hours ago

Bruh read it back. You were the first one to disagree with me and call me immature for it. To think you are calling yourself out. Lol

by ConfusionImaginary 16 hours ago

As I said lot of weird people are there. Anyways keep cheating brother

by ConfusionImaginary 16 hours ago

4 likes on your opinion by the way, it's not cheating, your just insecure lmao.

by Tommie75 16 hours ago

Yikes you are that generation which goes by the likes. Trend follower

by ConfusionImaginary 15 hours ago

Again and again buddy, you keep using your age as an excuse for your crushes. And I'm not young for your info. Biology this , biology that. Get a grip on your emotional mind maybe. Maybe focus towards your wife and vice versa

by ConfusionImaginary 15 hours ago

Bruh lol. I didn't even say about gender and orientation. It looks like you are the judgemental person here. I get it, your relationship is not as deep you want it to be. So you have to mask it by saying these things are normal. I get it. And for your info, I know there are many wonderful men and women who can love their partners deeply. It's sad your gf is not one of them.

by ConfusionImaginary 15 hours ago

Imagine not being allowed to think people are objectivley attractive lmaoo

by Anonymous 15 hours ago

Nah, it's normal. I remember feeling this way when I was 22 and lacking relationship experience, and now that I'm in my 30s, I realize I was being immature. People are going to have crushes - it's just natural to be attracted to other people and it's insane to expect someone to only ever be attracted to you. It's how you handle crushes that matter. I have married, monogamous friends who are perfectly capable of discussing that they've had a crush on someone else. If you're in a healthy relationship, this shouldn't be a big deal. Jealousy is a trait that can be worked on - it doesn't have to be a guiding principle. "Hall passes" might cross a line, but it'd again depend on the nature of your relationship.

by Sean02 14 hours ago

Now tell me what's the point of them discussing this crush?

by ConfusionImaginary 14 hours ago

Do you think a partner saying it's a "you" problem is good? That just shows what you consider a strong relationship is not really strong imo.

by ConfusionImaginary 14 hours ago

Lol strength of the relationship when the very strength is broken by you not being able to talk it out and calling your partner's unease as his problem.

by ConfusionImaginary 13 hours ago

Lol bruh you just said you would say it's their problem if they are uncomfortable because of it. That's literally what you said. Maybe you are not a great partner

by ConfusionImaginary 13 hours ago

This is definitely an unpopular opinion!

by Anonymous 12 hours ago

celebrity crush vs crush on someone you know are 2 very different things. nothing is wrong with a celebrity crush as long as its playful and not obsessive

by Anonymous 12 hours ago

lol

by Anonymous 12 hours ago

Op is young and/or super insecure lmao

by hayesanabel 12 hours ago

Or maybe boundaries…? Not everyone are comfortable with their partner lusting and crushing on others 🫶🏻

by Anonymous 11 hours ago

Just say you're insecure. We get it.

by Current_Library3594 11 hours ago

You are so passionate about hating on cheating but not this. Lol. Looks like you have some crushes you don't want anyone to call out

by ConfusionImaginary 11 hours ago

Lol calling someone else hot while not even pity mention of your husband's looks.

by ConfusionImaginary 10 hours ago

We get it bro, you're insecure. Maybe try therapy to work on your self esteem because this is pathetic😂

by Current_Library3594 10 hours ago

He's not an insecure child, so he's going to be just fine. Good luck out there, dating is going to be awfully rough for you. Poor girls

by Current_Library3594 10 hours ago

A celebrity crush is not the same as being in love. It's the same as obsessing over a book, a movie, a painting etc. The celebrities are not real to the person having a crush in the majority of cases. Now if the person is obsessing to the the point of trying get into a sexual or romantic relationship with the celebrity, that's not normal and most people would agree. Other than that, you're just wrong.

by Trick_Degree 9 hours ago

Having a crush on someone you know is wrong. But a celebrity crush is 100% innocent and if you have an issue with it, that is just your insecurities

by Different-Flow 9 hours ago

How is it innocent. Please elaborate

by ConfusionImaginary 9 hours ago

It's innocent because nothing is ever going to happen

by Glum-Fix3259 9 hours ago

That's called innocent. What if the husband has a crush on his wife's friend but the friend is in an another country? Is it innocent too? Your logic is bad because it depends on the unavailablility of the crush

by ConfusionImaginary 8 hours ago

Yes, it is called innocent. A celebrity crush is innocent Your gf has no chance with Timothee Chalamet. She'd have a way better chance with your friend Brad who's visiting from France It's also easier to have a crush on someone you've never met when they're a celebrity, bc you feel like you know them (via their acting, music, etc.). It'd be a little odd if your wife had a crush on a random dude she'd never met

by Glum-Fix3259 8 hours ago

So it's innocent because they can't act on it? Am I reading this right?

by ConfusionImaginary 8 hours ago

Is thinking someone is cute really considered a crush though. You wouldn't call yourself having a crush on a male actor because you think he's a good looking guy.

by ConfusionImaginary 8 hours ago

Not sure your point then. Are you specifically talking about people who send fan mail to their celebrity crush and have a shrine of them in their room? That'd be strange, yes

by Glum-Fix3259 7 hours ago

Come on. So if your gf thinks someone is cute, it's considered a crush??

by ConfusionImaginary 7 hours ago

The friend is someone they could personally contact though…

by Anonymous 7 hours ago

Also why would anyone have a crush on a friend they've never met? Maybe just based on a couple IG photos? Actors are people we feel like we know a lot better via movies/shows. I'm a dude and I'd be lying if I said that Chalamet didn't give me butterflies as Paul Atradies in Dune

by Glum-Fix3259 6 hours ago

Parasocial relationship

by ConfusionImaginary 6 hours ago

Reach It's way easier to explain a crush on an attractive actor who's in your favorite movie than it is when it's a friend of your significant others

by Glum-Fix3259 6 hours ago

Attraction

by Anonymous 5 hours ago

They may go for it

by Anonymous 5 hours ago

It's really not innocent though, you're basically saying "given the opportunity I would" but copping out because it's "never going to happen"

by myrticeking 5 hours ago

Say it louder for the people in the back 🙌🏻 If you're crushing on somebody else while in a relationship, you're not really in love. Cuz when you're really in love with someone, that person alone should be in the spotlight of your undivided attention and love.

by Anonymous 5 hours ago

i think having celebrity crushes are corny relationship or not unless it's saquon barkley

by Turbulent-Pen-4006 4 hours ago

I can talk to my partner about having crushes on people cuz we're not insecure or controlling people and understans crushes aren't within anyone's control. Acting upon them is. That's it.

by Anonymous 4 hours ago

I think it is all about access. Most people do not have personal access to celebrities, so the likelihood of being able to act on the crush is slim. A person you know, like a coworker or friend of your partner, is different. You may travel in the same social circles or have interactions with them. They are more accessible. The level of access increases temptation and the possibility that a person could act upon said crush.

by Anonymous 3 hours ago

See that's the reason I don't like. The celebrity crush is okay only because the uncertainty of meeting the said crush.

by ConfusionImaginary 3 hours ago

i gotta say i enjoyed reading your point of view until your food analogy. that was horrendous

by Separate-Bluebird-16 3 hours ago

It was stupid and contrived, but to be fair, so is most of what the OP was saying, so I think one bone-headed analogy on my part is fine.

by Anonymous 3 hours ago

Food is such a bad example. It's funny to read people disagreeing to not having a crush while in a relationship. Like go talk with your partner about having your emotional needs fulfilled. As far as I can see it's just a cope to not having a good communication skills with your partner.

by ConfusionImaginary 3 hours ago

As I said. Lot of people don't have deep relationships. And I can see how these are common in them.

by ConfusionImaginary 2 hours ago

As I said. Lot of people don't have deep relationships Yup, you absolutely must be a troll. The condescension and dismissiveness is mind-boggling.

by Anonymous 2 hours ago

Yeah I don't think a relationship is all 100% ok if people go lusting and crushing on others. Like it or not, it's a fact that that kind of behaviour is emotional cheating, doesn't matter is it ok or not in whoever's relationship. But I guess that's what this world has come to.

by Anonymous 2 hours ago

it being normal is not a matter of opinion because it is normal and it's something i find most people are okay with. but i agree with you that i don't find it okay. honestly, i don't understand how people have crushes on celebrities in general. i've never had one. some people will find it okay because you can't act on it due to it being a celebrity. however i feel that the intent there is what truly matters. i've noticed that partners who are heavily invested emotionally often don't have crushes on others or celebrities because the emotional bond fulfills that space. i don't agree that it's a disaster for a relationship though.

by Separate-Bluebird-16 2 hours ago

I definitely agree with the emotionally invested partner part.

by ConfusionImaginary 1 hour ago

Eh a celebrity crush is harmless to me, no chance you're likely to meet and seduce them, but a crush on someone you know personally is another story

by Anonymous 1 hour ago

As someone married to their high-school sweetheart, I agree with you. When you're madly in love with someone, all other people of that gender sort of become invisible to you. You don't even feel like looking at another man, let alone thinking about them to the point of having an actual crush on them. People who have crush on other people while being in a relationship, aren't that madly in love with their partners for sure. A lot of them are just settling.

by PuzzleheadedDay6422 1 hour ago