Bigger women are usually nicer and just better partners in general. amirite?

You said it yourself, you're more relaxed with the bigger women because you aren't as insecure. This will make them seem more personable.

by Bosmith 1 week ago

codependency!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It seems like an insecurity issue on your part where you would feel inferior to those you see as beautiful or above you so you find it easier to date women who you feel alpha to so you can boost your confidence and ego

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Good for you buddy

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I do not agree with "nicer or better partner." Carry on, but those are dead wrong in my book

by Anonymous 1 week ago

another way to read this is ugly people are more interested in you

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Maybe so, I don't really view it as fat = ugly though. Those are two distinct concepts for me lmfao.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

there is a venn diagram with some amount of overlap, I like a chubby woman myself but there's a distinct limit where it does become unattractive and it's probably about health.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I would also date someone with COPD or cancer, I don't really look at someone's "health concerns" when evaluating how much I connect with them on an emotional level. I guess it's different for everyone - that's just me. She can talk to her doctor about it if it's an issue lol

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's a much more unpopular opinion, do you tend to be the caregiver in your relationships? I would like to date someone who is literally capable of having a functional relationship and someone who is a year from dying likely doesn't have that ability. Friends is one thing but that's gonna be a very one sided relationship.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

sure if you are already in a relationship but at the same time you are talking about COPD? That's not something you get better from, cancer you may get better but it depends. But putting aside your needs and having the energy only going one direction is called codependency and it's not good for anyone. The reality is you likely won't meet anyone on Bumble with COPD but you WILL meet a girl with a ton of issues and you will feel like you can help them because your insecurity makes you feel like that's the only way you can have value.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

hey man, don't make me think introspectively

by Anonymous 1 week ago

What about the financial concerns? Fat people eat more. Food costs a lot more now.

by clementine41 1 week ago

There has never been a "stunning" person over 300lbs, regardless of gender.

by clementine41 1 week ago

Tbh, bigger women sorta have to be nicer to make up for the fact that most men find them very unattractive. You can't be fat and mean.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Well, ya can. There's a bajillion fat, mean people. There's also a bajillion skinny, mean people. The difference is that skinny, pretty mean people get more dating opportunities- they still wind up alone. If you find a skinny or fat nice person, you hit the jackpot. Pretty is as pretty does. I've met so many people with perfect faces & nice bodies who just crumble into hideousness after a month of knowing them. Conversely, I've met several fat, unremarkable-looking humans who became sexier and sexier over time because they're smart, hilarious, and kind. Those folks are few and far between, though. If you find one, hang on to them. There are also plenty of extraordinarily attractive people who have good personalities. I don't think this is an uncommon feeling.

by Antonette14 1 week ago

I was quoting a show lol, I felt that the quote fit well with my point. I guess I didn't do a good enough job explaining that

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'm not tryna bully anyone, I'm literally pointing out the reality of why some people feel they have to be especially nice to others, especially in the dating scene.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

that's the overcompensation for the insecurity

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Disagree. Most of the bigger girls I know are catty and do the most "tea" spilling.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I agree with you. I've seen quite a few ladies of the night and even pornstars. some of the bbws and busty ones are so kind and nice while the skinny ones are straight up nasty people. I get out of there. There have been a few skinny ladies who are truly nice and different from the rest.

by Far_Air_295 1 week ago

Still, no thanks. If there is no attraction, my relationship simply WILL NOT work, no matter how nice she might be. Other body parts might not work either.

by Klingadolfo 1 week ago

This screams "written by a bigger woman."

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Humans are inherently lazy. There is little motivation to work on other aspects of yourself, if everything is just handed to you. Being conventionally attractive as a woman means men will just hand it to you.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Fat girls try harder

by Anonymous 1 week ago